Sunday, November 27, 2011

I Have A Dream to Stop Abuse

Do you dream? 

You should. We all were created with the ability to dream. And some of us are able to dream bigger than others. Usually our dreams are as big as our God, and my God is without limit.... He is infinite. The only limitation is that we live in a physical world with physical boundaries but the good news is that is only part of who we are and what this world is. On a much bigger realm is the spiritual world. And we don't have to wait for death to be living spiritually. Made in God's image, we should live spiritually everyday. And in the spirit, in His spirit, we can go to 'infinity and beyond'. Really.

Dream Big - Let God Give You Dreams

So what does a dreamer dream when she was raised as a child of horrific abuse? What does a dreamer dream when she was rescued as a child of the King? 

She dreams BIG because she has seen BIG and she knows BIG.... big good and big bad. 

I have shared about this before... could have been as long as a year ago. 

God has been stirring in my heart. 

He is playing my heart harp strings and I am hearing His song. He told me this weekend that I am entering the year of HOPE. I know for some it is hard to understand that a person can hear the voice of God. But with many who have been deeply hurt, they can hear Him, because in those dark depths of hellacious life His is the only voice that can pierce through so much wickedness, anger, suffering and hate. We -- survivors -- learn to listen to His voice, the melodious tune of love, because we know it is the light beaconing in to show us the only way out. 

Is it any surprise then that those who are bouncing along this life of work, school, shopping, trips, accomplishments, and goals... that you struggle to hear or altogether miss His voice?

You don't have to be abused to hear God or love Him or know Him or follow Him. Thank God! And can I hear an "Amen!" Glory to God! 


for those of you who already have heard my dream, keep praying with me for it to blossom fully, for its timing to come to fruition, for the people and resources to rise up.

I have never once doubted or questioned. I know all is in God's timing. Some have responded, but I know I am still to be waiting. The structure is developing but the full breath of life that must flow through the work is not yet come. So I wait, and as God prompts I will speak, and then I will wait more. Allowing Him to work. 

Oh, how when think our plans work on our timing... and if they do they are certainly ours and not His. But when you simply speak His dreams, His burden, His desires... allowing Him to verbalize through you... you know to wait until the unction of the Holy Spirit moves. So here it is again, the cry of my heart, the need I see, the dream I would love to see come true. Child of faith, listen to God, it is all you must do.

It has been my dream to help survivors of child abuse who are now adults trying to raise their own children without repeating the cycle. Such assistance is very dear to my heart because I was one such mom. I desperately needed help when my children were young. Being raised in a home with 8 siblings that endured psychologically twisted torture for nearly two decades, I have had to overcome more than anyone should ever have to endure. In being a Rutherford county resident and seeking assistance I found that help is available to those who are currently being abused, living in drug/alcohol addiction, at or below poverty level, and either still abusing or placing their children in unsafe situations. Help for people who have come out of horrible sordid types of abuse but who are sincerely trying (often by the grace of God) to not abuse their children are basically provided with no where to go for much needed help. 

I have dreamed of the type of programs that would have brought a welcome friend/network to lean on as I tried to recover and heal, a place for my children to be safely nurtured and understanding adult support provided, and a emergency call number for my family (husband, children) to know any hour of the day or night someone who is trained will help them walk through the challenging recovery years. 

Child Abuse organization come in many shapes and sizes and provide much of the same assistance (locally and nationwide). It remains my heart longing to see a non-profit group established to do the real hard work of assisting the actual adults that ARE STOPPING the cycle of child abuse.  I can not tell you how many times I have been told how great I was doing comparatively to those still abusing their children, but being better than an abuser was not my life goal. Those words were not encouraging, they simply communicated our organization doesn't help people like you-- adult survivors of extreme child abuse who are passionate about not abusing their children. 

If you think being an adult survivor of child abuse stopping the cycle of child abuse is easy or even basic, you have no idea of the mental, emotional, physical and spiritual damaged done to a child of abuse. 

It not only takes real grit determination, it takes a willingness to face the reality of the horror you lived through, the endurance to persevere through healing, and the finances to pay for therapy/doctors/medicine/child care on one income (while going through recovery a person is not usually stable to be employeed and do not qualify for ssi disability). And I have not even begun to share the spiritual warfare needed to end the generational curse--for those who are God-centered and reverent to the spiritual realm of life.

I would love to talk with those in our community who can help organize to start a non-profit that will be a necessary, loving, support to people who are fighting the front lines in the war against child abuse, the ones doing the hard work daily to stop the cycle! I love my community, and know if only people are aware of the need, some will be touched to step up and help solve a major problem in the health of families.
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Sweet Dreams to you!

Thursday, November 17, 2011

Why Should Black Americans Vote for Democrats?

Let me preface this post to make it clear that I do not think the question I posed for the Title of this article is the way people in general should be thinking ... speaking of people by the color of their skin... black, white, brown, etc. I use it only because it is a topic being discussed lately because of the entrance of a black American to the potential candidates being nominated for the Republican Presidential ticket. I think that people of any color should vote based on principles and ideals not skin color.

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My hope is that through a civil discourse among Americans that truly want to accept, understand and love one another that we can usher in God's healing to our deeply divided Nation. This is no longer politics as usual - thank God! The people literary fir the first time in decades have a choice!

I am so glad Herman Cain is running for the President of the United States of America. I have long wanted to support a black American for the high office in our country, especially when Obama was running last year. The enthusiasm of so many that rallied behind Obama... I understood the excitement but Obama's principles were so drastically different from mine,  I could not support him! In many ways I wished my friends who share my values had someone to embrace that they could rally behind.

Therefore, it is my joy to rally behind Mr. Cain, not because of his skin color but because of what he speaks about and stands up for. I agree with his message. To me it is just so sweet to finally get the opportunity to openly stand along side a black American because for so many years being conservative I have been blamed by liberals and far democrats as being prejudice. Nothing could be further from this. I live by God's Word and openly welcome all people into my heart and home.

Cain's principles are so closely related to mine. The more I learn about him the more I like him. No one is perfect, but Cain is forthright, at ease with who he is and can speak for himself without a speechwriter/teleprompter! So, his candidacy is a delightful time to ask "Why Should Black Americans Vote for Democrats?" It is particularly a question because many pundits that pretend to represent black Americans claim black Americans can only vote in a single bloc vote. I strongly disagree with this kind of mindset!

For example, Mr. Leonard Pitt's recent column was printed in my local newspaper, the Daily News Journal. As I do with most articles in our paper I read it in full, and I was angry (offended) by the time I finished it. But my anger was not in sin, it was righteous anger against lies. Matter of fact, I thought it was so tasteless I wrote and called our newspaper to express my concern. I was very thankful to the honest, open reception I received from the executive manager of our paper! My response is in the DNJ today.

I was quite upset about his racist comments especially toward the end of the letter/article. Pitts simply rolled with hatred and false accusations.

If you read the column let me make this clear- I don't care for Ann Coulter who Pitts was responding to.... She says outlandish comments in an attempt to draw controversy and increase readership.

I was outraged that Pitts compared conservatives to having the moral authority with black Americans to a pimps talking about women rights. There is a big difference historically between Democratic whites and Republican whites-- in general-- when it comes to their opinion of black people.

Republican from the very start and all the way through emancipation, constitutional amendments, and first civil rights have fought hard against Democratic majority to get legislation passed in Congress. This is a little fact that Democrats want to forget and lie about! Mr. Pitts is one of them who speak lies. To be fair to Mr. Pitts it is quite possible he doesn't know the real history of slavery laws in the United States Congress. So for him and anyone else that may be basing their current opinion on lies... lets get the record straight:

It was not until the Democratic party took over congress that our country began passing legislation that encouraged continued slavery. 

In 1789 (Northwest Ordinance forbade slavery in fed territories and States could enter only as free states, the original congress fought to pass law to limit slavery because they wanted it to never be legal... it is the very reason the Constitution was specifically written to NOT support slavery but instead was anti-slavery by not allowing slave-owners the right to have more voting power simply because they pushed to have equal representation for their slaves... more population allowed a state to have more representation in congress. The slave owners wanted it both ways... to keep and expand slavery but to also be allowed to count each of their slaves as part of the population... therefore they would have more voting power.

The congress in 1808 also voted to abolish slave trade.

It was not until 1820 when the DEMOCRAT party was in control of congress that pro-slavery legislation emerged. They passed the Missouri Compromise reversing previous laws and permitting slavery in half of the fed territories... it was only then that several territories entered as Slave States. AND this was the first time since the formation of America that slavery was promoted by Congress..... only when the DEMOCRATS won control of congress!

The DEMOCRATS continued passing pro-slavery laws like the 1850 Fugitive Slave Law requiring Northerners to return escaped slaves back into slavery or pay a huge fine. YES, this Slave keeping law was a DEMOCRAT law that denied both jury trial and right of habeas corpus... it was clearly unconstitutional. This law was harmful even to free blacks because they were being falsely picked up and sent into slavery. Nearly 20,000 blacks escaped into Canada from the North who were legally not slaves but in fear of being picked up and put into slavery. This is also when the underground railroad was strongly helping slaves escape.

Again in 1854, the DEMOCRAT controlled congress pass another pro-slavery law, The Kansas-Nebraska Act which further repealed more slavery restriction and increasing the US territory that permitted slavery. Democrats were trying to make slavery possible coast to coast.

It was after this that those members of the Democrat party that were against slavery left the Democrat Party and joined with other anti-slavery Americans (Whigs, Free-Soilers, Emancipationists) to form a new party (the REPUBLICAN PARTY!!!!) that would fight slavery and secure equal rights for black Americans! It was one of these new Republican party founders that worked to get Boston public schools desegregated and even argued this point before the Supreme Court! This REPUBLICAN (Charles Sumner) spoke for two-days straight in the US Senate AGAINST SLAVERY! After the speech he was beaten unconscious by DEMOCRAT Preston Brooks with a club on the Senate floor! Sumner didn't recover until after 3 years, but amazingly his first speech on the Senate Floor upon his return was against slavery.

Dred Scott was decided upon by a DEMOCRATICALLY controlled Supreme Court! It was not until 1860 when Republican Abraham Lincoln won against the Democrat Stephen Douglas that blacks had a strong voice in American Politics again... And we all know what Lincoln did to free blacks from slavery! So tell me again...... why should American Blacks love the Democratic party.... I just can't figure it out!

My hope is people - all people - will see themselves as unique individuals created in the image of God and able to learn and choose for themselves... that they will no longer see themselves as a color, but a precious soul.

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

Cain, Analysis, Uncovering Truth Behind Accusers

Accusers keep coming... when will they stop? We all know how very painful it can be to be accused of doing something we did not do. I have been in this situation many times and brought to weeping in prayer  kneeling on the floor by my bed. Words can be painful, words can be healing. Words can be false witness, words can be true witness. God thought enough of the seriousness of false witness that he made bearing false witness against your neighbor as one of the ten commandments. He understands it is one of the major tactics of His arch-enemy, Satan. Slow down, get quiet before God, listen with spiritual ears. Ask God for insight to see what He sees. And use the reasoning mind your Creator gave you to discern truth from lies.

There are only 10 Commandments! These are important for us to detect sin.

I have always had an inquiring mind, and something didn’t seem right about Sharon Baliek, the accuser of Herman Cain. Searching the web for unbiased information I decided to look for body language experts. I found several websites that walked through the televised confession finding indications of deception throughout the tape. Cain’s body language on several different taped appearances repeatedly revealed that he was speaking the truth.

I highly recommend Dr. Jack at Body Language Success

Here is a short email question answer session: My questions are in black.

Lindy: How does ones faith effect body language? Faith does not alter body language. Body language is cross-cultural and there is even cross-species applications (horse whisperer, dog whisperer, etc.If Mr. Cain is a God believing man is it also read the same way? Faith does not alter it. I am a Christian. God made us all with virtually identical nervous systems, facial muscles, etc. There is some minor relatively mild gesture variation from some culture to culture - but these are a small minority of hand/arm gestures.  To pause for patience is  something of a virtue (not always, it could very well mean other things, depending on the context and what other signals with which it is clustered)You should note that I pick on candidates from all parties and many countries. I like Herman Cain.  and and to hold your hands in this manner at the same time could be an indicator that he is looking toward God to give him that patience No way, not this sign - the fact it is called "Steeple" is a metaphorical coincidence - it has nothing to do with faith - it is overused in people with media coaching who don't understand body language - or those who know a little bit. Just look at reporters, they use the steeple all the time. It is interpreted cross-culturally as confident if used for brief periods. But when used too long (just a few moments or at the wrong times) it sends messages of arrogance and condescending attitudes. Anyone who is an authority figure probably over uses it.  While the steeple hand is not a natural, casual motion, it is a lot more non-direct way to hold prayer hands than the typical private hands held together (don't mean to be rude, but your wrong here. Once again, I am a Christian and I pray all the time). For a Christian used to praying, is it possible that it is a body language response indicated that he was directing his inner thoughts toward God and inward pursing his lips because he was "biting his tongue" until God calmed him and gave Him the words. You're making a common mistake. You're looking for/ascribing qualities (which Cain may very well may have, again, I believe he's a good man and a good candidate) where the body language doesn't indicate it. Remember, body language is a REALTIME indicator of what the person is feeling AT THAT MOMENT. Body language IS NOT an overall predictor of the personality - unless of course you see very consistent signs (and there are examples of this, but this is beyond the scope of this teaching).

Just a thought… you are the expert… and last question why would you not want a person that waits for anger/anxiety to pass to patience before he speaks to be a presidential candidate? Yes. I think he's a good candidate, I'm not passing a "judgement", rather I'm making a scientific analysis. He is only human. Look back, I have held up Romney and Perry and Clinton and Obama and Nixon and Carter of what not to do. I'm not picking on Cain. He should shave his mustache though - there's been no president elected with any facial hair since Taft in 1908. We instinctively trust those less with facial hair - even pre-verbal children looking at pictures of their own freshly-shaven dads. Very interesting.  I have a hard time biting my tongue. That's okay, you're entitled.  I wish I could exercise such self-control. Sometimes it takes great practice to be able to do this… I know it would for me. Interestingly, people who practice body language for a length of time (e.g. those I've coached for 20+ hours and who are serious about practicing it) become much more aware of their own negative emotions and notice them/are aware of them/self-reflective on them - after the negative emotions, during their negative emotions, and a very, very few as the negative emotion is crescendoing And I am sure as a highly visible corporate CEO there have been many times he has had to learn how to hold his tongue (agreed, but you'd be surprised at some others. Cain is pretty good. I think people like his honest style. Reminds me a bit of what I've read/seen video on Truman).

thanks. You're very welcome. 

So I dug further.

And I think I may have found the link between anti-Cain money and Sharon Beliek. It may be a different group than you expected.

After looking into Sharon, I noticed that she had a paternity suit with West Naze over her son who is now 13. West Naze, just happens to be employed (now and 13 years ago) by News Corp. which just happens to be owned by Rupert Murdoch (and Prince Alwaleed bin Talal, News Corp’s second largest shareholder).

Could West Naze have called in a threat or tantalizing $$ favor with his previous lover?

Clearly to me, the elite media is targeting Cain. But don’t jump to thinking this is a Democrat Party versus Republican Party scandalous fight. No, that is what the real puppeteers want Americans to believe!

The American system of Representative Democracy is being held hostage by the Kingmakers of long ago that Phyllis Schalfly uncovered in her famous 1964 book, A Choice Not An Echo. In this book she detailed how she was an eyewitness to the hijack of America’s presidential elections by the Eastern Elites that owned Banks and Media.

She claims in her book that she “stumbled on clear evidence that very powerful men actually do meet to make plans which are kept secret from American citizens. While visiting at Sea Island, Georgia, this writer discovered the details of a secret meeting on nearby St. Simon’s Island, Georgia held at the King and Prince Hotel, February 14-18, 1957. “

She described the elaborate precautions to keep the meeting secret to include, “During the four days and five nights of the meeting, all roads leading to the hotel were blocked off and the road block maintained by Georgia State Police. The hotel was closed to all other patrons. NATO and FBI guards in plain clothes kept constant surveillance on the hotel itself. None of the hotel employees was permitted to go into the ballroom where the meetings were held. At the end of each session, one of the participants personally gathered up all notes and memos used during the meeting and burned them.”

The participants she lists are:

George Ball, McGeorge Bundy, Arthur Dean, Thomas Dewey, J. William Fulbright, Paul. Hoffman, C. D. Jackson, George Kennan, Ralph McGill, Paul Nitze, David Rockefeller, Dean Rusk, Arthur Hays Sulzberger, Alexander Wiley,

President Eisenhower was at the Augusta National Golf Club with Nelson Rockefeller, Harold Stassen, Thomas Lamont, Dean Acheson, Gardner Cowles, Winthrop Aldrich and Walter Lippman. He received regular phone calls from Tom Dewey at the bar of the King and Prince Hotel.

She noted “the participants at this meeting were some of the biggest names in American politics, business and press” and the “entire bill was paid by H. J. Heinz. Nobody was allowed to pay for anything.”

The names she identified as “appearing to have a magic ability to be named to top government positions by both Republicans and Democrats.” Here is her list:

Nelson Rockefeller, Coordinator of Latin American Affairs and a Republican Candidate for president in 1964.

Henry Cabot Lodge, Ambassador to South Viet Nam and Republican candidate for president in 1964.

Robert Strange McNamara, Secretary of Defense.

C. Douglas Dillon, Undersecretary of State and Secretary of Treasury.

Arthur Dean, chief negotiator for Eisenhower and disarmament adviser for Kennedy.

Paul G. Hoffman, foreign aid head for Truman, and Manager of the UN Special Fund by Eisenhower.

Robert B. Anderson, Secretary of the Navy and Secretary of Treasury for Eisenhower, also “special ambassador to settlement with Panama” for LBJ.


Are we only pretending to be a representative democracy? WE THE PEOPLE have an opportunity to vote for someone who is NOT on the kingmaker’s list! But we have to want to break free from the monstrous control of the elite!

Saturday, November 5, 2011

New Thoughts on Racial Issues in America

Here we go again! America has a race problem, but it is not a white against black or a black against white problem. It is a prejudice problem, but not how you think about the word prejudice! The problem  has to do with the color of one's skin, but truly it is a problem of a completely different color.

Children learn from parents... are you racist?

Black Americans in general have been stereotyped by themselves-- by large-- and the Democrat Party, and ANYONE else who thinks of people with black skin as one stereotype. This is prejudice of the worst kind!

Let me explain:

Herman Cain running for President was accused by an organization, Politico, of having committed sexual harassment against two employees in 1999. They also stated that a settlement had been reached. No names. No specific acts. No amounts of money. Nothing.

Of course, no ethical organization would print a story like this, until it was thoroughly researched and verified as truly Mr. Cain being guilty of sexual harassment. Without facts of the charges being true it is clearly done only is to smear his character.

Interestingly, I was reading Clarence Thomas's book "My Grandfather's Son" this week when the story broke.

I couldn't help but see the obvious similarities. But what was so hurtful, was to read the agony that the accusation caused Mr. Thomas. He was in so much pain he went home and crawled on his bed crying in a fetal position.

Why would he respond so deeply?

Because Mr. Thomas and Mr. Cain are the grandchildren of a black generation in America that was assumed to be guilty of any accusation by a women! It is the "To Kill A Mockingbird" story all over again, that they all to well know is not simply a scenario made up in a book. So it is the one situation that they never want to be in, and for good reason, they tend to be sensitive to this in their life.

And it is doubly painful to for them to see people hypocritically assume what they SHOULD think, believe or want in life just because their skin color is black!

Mr. Thomas and Mr. Cain came from very poor economic Southern areas of our country, but don't think this problem is geographic! In the South during their lifetime they have been able to raise up out of poverty. The South has not held them done or tried to cast them into a set mold. The South is where they found the beginning of opportunity.

And with this opportunity their family (Mr. Thomas was raised by his grandparents) taught them diligently apply themselves to learning in school. They were taught and applied principles of hard-work and self-disciple to achieve any goal in life. And both men, became disciplined of character through taking responsibility for the outcome of their future life.

They have become an example of the classic American dream story of rags to riches through applying Godly principles of becoming an independent-thinking, diligent, steadfast person. They persevered through very trying--nearly impossible odds--to succeed. And they continue to do so today.

So what is the problem; who is prejudice?

Anyone who stereotypically thinks that people of one color skin have the same ideals, goals, foundation, desires and political party affiliation is PREJUDICE.

We are all created equal, in the image of creator, who creatively gave us different skin color, but we are unique in our soul and spirit.

A body is just a body. It is the physical housing for our soul and spirit, but its skin color does not define who we really are?

We need to see color, and appreciate color. But when we meet someone we are not meeting a black, brown, olive, medium, fair person, those labels are just the skin color (like looking at a book cover). Do all books with the same color cover have the same story inside? Do they all have the same principles and worldview? Of course, not!

Well, using the book analogy, Mr. Thomas and Mr. Cain may have the same skin/book-cover color as those who have chosen by a large majority to want principles of the Democrat Party, but you can't know them and what they believe until you listen to what they have to say. And if you tell them they are wrong simply because of their beliefs being different from what you expect, you are prejudice! Color does not dictate ideology! Nor does color determine a person's soul!

Our soul (mind, will and emotions) develops our beliefs. And our soul has the will to choose what to believe. What we are taught we believe unless we begin to learn new ideas and then we get to choose which to believe. People who all believe one way have been taught that one way, and most are never exposed to information that has different facts.

Obviously, by removing the Bible and God from our education system, Godly principles are not taught but labeled as religious ideas, instead of truth to live by. It is with the spirit--who is born anew through God's Spirit--that is able to be rightly guided by God's principles.

We are soul, spirit and body, but clearly the body does not dictate what one thinks or how one makes a choice. You have to know a person (soul/spirit), not a body.

When will people ever see others clearly?